I’ve looked around. I’ve asked questions. I’ve listened to many stories.
After hearing the umpteenth person complain about life in Los Angeles I have finally figured it out. There is one common denominator that determines WHY someone would hate Los Angeles.
People hate Los Angeles when they demand something specific from their experience here and they can’t figure out how to get it.
Most people come to Los Angeles hoping for all of their biggest dreams to come true. They figure that THE CITY will reward their bravery for moving here simply because they came.
Los Angeles isn’t some magic vortex where you cross over and all of a sudden all of your problems will be solved. They may call this LA LA Land but that doesn’t mean it’s a dream.
Some of the complaints I have heard are:
- This city doesn’t care about the homeless.
- There aren’t enough affordable housing in Los Angeles.
- This city doesn’t have enough free aftercare programs for children.
- There are too many earthquakes.
- The people here are so phony and materialistic.
- You can’t get a decent acting gig here.
- This city is expensive and overrated.
Did you notice how none of the reasons why people hate Los Angeles have anything to do with their actions and everything to do with what they want from others and most shockingly- mother nature?
You can’t control what other people value. You can’t control how people react to you, You can’t control what happens in your environment. You can’t control how others choose to live their lives. You can’t demand that someone take care of you. You can’t force prices to go down.
You can decide that you WANT to be happy in Los Angeles and then- be happy. Your happiness and contentment in any place should not be swayed by your environment. Contentment is a choice, it is not a result.
Every person that I have met who was angry about being in Los Angeles so desperately wanted to have a specific experience here that their desire negated the beauty of their current experiences. If you have that type of attitude you won’t be happy anywhere.
So yes, once you get here you will meet plenty of people who complain about Los Angeles but remember that they are all focusing on what they want from others, never mentioning what they are contributing themselves and they are probably generally unhappy people anyway.
You can have anything you want in any city you want it if you decide that you will create it for yourself instead of asking for permission or waiting for someone else to give it to you. If you want the homeless fed, feed the homeless. If you want free childcare, GIVE IT. If you want more acting gigs, create some.
Los Angeles is what it is and it is going to keep thriving whether you are here or not. You can join the circle by bringing value to the city and being a part of its progress or whine about Los Angeles not catering to your needs.